Birthday post! (On ageing.)

Not to sound like a disgruntled middle-aged person, but somehow, I’ve been dropped from AARP’s mailing list since they began their early-harassment campaign a few years ago. They were all over me when I turned – what was it, 46? – and now I’m on the eve of 49, and nothing from them. It’s FOMO more than wanting to actually sign up, I suppose.

Tomorrow is my birthday; I’ll begin my last year in my 40’s. I’ve felt sort of obligated to come up with a birthday reflection post, so I’ve been, well, reflecting.

I’m fine with ageing, in general. Having to look at a downside, though, I came up with this: ageing’s not fun in a typical way that aging’s not fun.

Common ageing-related laments would include health complaints associated with age, “looking old” and gaining weight, failure to achieve life goals, becoming more forgetful, being broke later in life.

My only ageing-related lament so far: loss.

We’re not as prepared for ageing-related loss. We’re bombarded with advertisements for anti-aging products, money management firms, weight-loss programs, adult re-education programs, retirement homes. There’s a sizable market of services and shit to sell to oldsters. But there are no advertisements to help with the fact that the older we get, the more people we lose, the more beloved furbabies we bury. Maybe we get crankier and more melancholic with age because of this accumulation of loss, the general sadness that comes with watching our loved ones pass away.

Oldsters’ loneliness comes, in part, from death. It’s good to keep this in mind, to be mindful of treating the elderly with respect and compassion. They’ve seen a lot, and they’ve suffered a lot of loss along the way. Ageing-related loneliness is a profound loneliness. Give oldsters a break when they’re in a bad mood or just generally negative. They may act like they don’t want us or need us, but they do, in some way or another. Love and compassion are the most invaluable commodities.

All of that being said, I’ve also found definite upsides to ageing, and many of these are typical: learning from mistakes, caring less about what others think, getting closer to age-qualification for senior discounts at various places. (I needed a bit of levity there.)

Most of all, the older I get, the more gratitude I feel. I’m thankful to be alive; every birthday is a victory. I’m thankful for the people I do have in my life. I’m grateful to feel good health-wise, despite chronic illness; grateful that my body works. I feel enormous gratitude that I’m able to do what I love, and gratitude that I live in the sunniest place possible – yes, lots of sunshine matters tremendously to me and my mental well-being.

On that note, I took some selfies outside on Friday (December 22). Here’s one:

 

The Friday before my birthday – wearing red for the troops (2017)

 

I have goosebumps because there was a chill in the air, but that sun!!

Honestly, I feel like I can’t begin to stop counting my blessings. I have that many.

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6 thoughts on “Birthday post! (On ageing.)

  1. Having just left my 30s, I can relate to the reflections, and I truly appreciate your positive spin and “upsides to aging”. You’re looking healthy, really strong and beautiful, and I’m so glad that reflects how you feel inside. Happy birthday ❤

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  2. Being a decade older, I can relate LOL – less and less peer pressure the older you get – keep setting new goals – new challenges – enjoy everyone and Thank you for being here in this space and time.

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  3. Thank you, Renee. =) I’m awestruck every time I see your yoga pics on insta; you’ve always been an inspiration to me. I would never guess that you’ve surpassed your 30’s. Your youthfulness defies the medical challenges you face, challenges you handle with such strength and grace. It all shines through in your yoga practice, inside and out. physically and spiritually. ❤

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